Choosing a host is the most important decision you will make at a host club. Your host determines the quality of your conversation, the atmosphere of your evening, and whether you leave wanting to come back. This step-by-step guide walks you through the process.

Step 1: Understand the Types of Hosts

Hosts generally fall into a few archetypes. Knowing these helps you narrow down your choice:

• The Cool Type (かっこいい系) — Handsome, aloof, and confident. He will charm you with his looks and mystique. Best if you enjoy being pursued.
• The Friendly Type (フレンドリー系) — Warm, chatty, and easy to talk to. Ideal for first-timers and shy customers. He will carry the conversation.
• The Playful Type (面白い系) — Funny, energetic, and entertaining. Expect jokes, games, and a lively table. Great if you want a fun, low-pressure night.
• The Mature Type (大人系) — Older, sophisticated, and experienced. He provides a calm, refined experience. Popular among customers who want deeper conversation.
• The Pretty Boy (甘えん坊系) — Young, cute, and affectionate. He plays up a sweet, boyish charm. Popular with customers who enjoy pampering their host.

Step 2: Look at the Photo Book (男本)

When you enter a club, the staff will present a photo book (男本 /otoko-bon) containing photos and profiles of all hosts currently working. Each profile typically includes:

• Name and age
• Height and blood type
• A personal tagline or catchphrase
• Special skills or interests

Flip through the book and note anyone whose look or description appeals to you. Do not feel rushed — this is a normal part of the process.

Step 3: Ask the Staff for Recommendations

After browsing the photo book, tell the staff what you are looking for. You can say:

• "This is my first time — can you recommend someone friendly?"
• "I prefer a cool, mature type of host."
• "I want someone who speaks some English." (if applicable)
• "Who is the most popular host tonight?"

The staff know their hosts well and will make a thoughtful match. If the first host does not click with you, you can politely request a change after 15–20 minutes.

Step 4: Try Different Hosts Before Committing

You are not obligated to stick with your first host. Especially as a new customer, visiting a few times with different hosts is completely normal and even recommended. Pay attention to:

• Does conversation flow easily or feel forced?
• Does he remember details you shared on previous visits?
• Do you feel relaxed or on edge?
• Does he respect your budget or push for expensive orders?

Step 5: Signs of a Good Match

• You genuinely look forward to seeing him again.
• Conversation feels natural, not scripted.
• He remembers your preferences (drink, topics, etc.).
• He is transparent about costs and does not pressure you.
• The chemistry is mutual — you feel a genuine connection.

Step 6: Making the Final Choice

Once you find a host you click with, you can nominate (指名 / shimei) him as your regular host. This means you will only sit with him on future visits. Nomination carries expectations — he will prioritize you, and you are expected to visit with some regularity. Do not nominate until you are sure.